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COPING
When the worst has happened and you have lost a loved one to Depression and
Suicide there is little that can be said to comfort you. We at Pips Project suffer with you; we understand and hope that some of the
information on this website helps you
It’s okay to grieve: The death of a loved one is
a reluctant and drastic amputation, without any anesthesia. The pain cannot be
described, and no scale can measure the loss. We despise the truth that the
death cannot be reversed, and that somehow our dear one returned. Such hurt!!
It's okay to grieve.
It’s okay to cry: Tears release the flood of
sorrow, of missing and of love. Tears relieve the brute force of hurting,
enabling us to "level off" and continue our cruise along the stream of life.
It's okay to cry.
It’s okay to heal: We do not need to "prove" we
loved him or her. As the months pass, we are slowly able to move around with
less outward grieving each day. We need not feel "guilty", for this is not an
indication that we love less. It means that, although we don't like it, we are
learning to accept death. It's a healthy sign of healing. It's okay to heal.
It’s okay to laugh: Laughter is not a sign of
"less" grief. Laughter is not a sign of "less" love. It's a sign that many of
our thoughts and memories are happy ones. It's a sign that we know our memories
are happy ones. It's a sign that we know our dear one would have us laugh again.
It's okay to laugh.
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Grief
Grief is as old as mankind but is one of the most neglected of human
problems. As we become aware of this neglect, we come to realize the enormous
cost that it has been to the individual, to the families and to society, in
terms of pain and suffering because we have neglected the healing of grief.
Essential to a grieving person is to have at least one person who will allow
them, give them permission to grieve. Some people can turn to a friend or to a
family member. Some find a support group that will allow one to be the way one
needs to be at the present as they work through their grief.
Dealing appropriately with grief is important in helping to preserve healthy
individuals and nurturing families, to avoid destroying bodies and their psyche,
their marriages and their relationships.
You can postpone grief but you cannot avoid it. As other stresses come along,
one becomes less able to cope if one has other unresolved grief.
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